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How do I leave a relationship that is not abusive but is wrong?
Nobody cheated. We are kind. I am still sure this is not my life. I feel cruel.
How long does it take to rebuild trust after lying?
I lied about money. She stayed. I want a date when this is over. She says she does not know.
How do I stop checking my partner’s phone?
I find things, then I cannot stop. It is ruining us and I still do it.
How do I talk without turning every issue into a fight?
We cannot discuss dishes without a trial. I shut down. She says I do not care.
What do healthy boundaries sound like in a relationship?
I either say nothing or I explode. I want sentences I can actually use.
Anxious vs avoidant — can that pairing work in dating?
I chase, he withdraws, we both think the other is the problem.
Why do I chase people who are emotionally unavailable?
If they are easy, I get bored. If they are half-in, I am obsessed.
How do I become more securely attached while dating?
I know my pattern. I still do it. I want a method, not a label.
How do we handle a desire mismatch?
I want sex twice a week. He wants it rarely. I feel rejected. He feels hunted.
Is it normal that we never have sex anymore after kids?
I love my kids. I miss my wife. I feel like a monster for wanting something.
How do I get over someone I still love?
The relationship ended. The wanting did not. I keep looking at their stories.
How do I know if I miss them or just the routine?
Sunday mornings hurt. I cannot tell if it is her or the coffee-for-two habit.