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How do I leave a relationship that is not abusive but is wrong?
Nobody cheated. We are kind. I am still sure this is not my life. I feel cruel.
How do we handle a desire mismatch?
I want sex twice a week. He wants it rarely. I feel rejected. He feels hunted.
Is it normal that we never have sex anymore after kids?
I love my kids. I miss my wife. I feel like a monster for wanting something.
How do I get over someone I still love?
The relationship ended. The wanting did not. I keep looking at their stories.
How do I know if I miss them or just the routine?
Sunday mornings hurt. I cannot tell if it is her or the coffee-for-two habit.
How do I know if I am being gaslit?
After every argument I apologize, even when I started with a fact. I leave conversations more confused than I entered.
What are red flags in the first month of dating?
I keep missing things that later look obvious. What is actually worth walking from early?
How do I tell trauma bonding from chemistry?
The highs are huge. The crashes are worse. People say that is passion. I am not sure.
Are they busy or losing interest after three good dates?
Texts went from paragraphs to 'ha yeah.' I do not want to chase. I also do not want to ghost myself.
How do I know if this is a situationship or a relationship?
We sleep together, talk daily, and have no name. I asked once and got 'why label it?'
How long does it take to rebuild trust after lying?
I lied about money. She stayed. I want a date when this is over. She says she does not know.
How do I stop checking my partner’s phone?
I find things, then I cannot stop. It is ruining us and I still do it.