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Are they busy or losing interest after three good dates?
Texts went from paragraphs to 'ha yeah.' I do not want to chase. I also do not want to ghost myself.
Why do I pull away when someone gets close to me?
I want a relationship until it is real, then I find flaws and vanish.
How should I text after a good first date?
I always either wait too long and look cold or text immediately and feel desperate.
Anxious vs avoidant — can that pairing work in dating?
I chase, he withdraws, we both think the other is the problem.
What does it mean when she says she needs space?
We were fine, then 'I need space.' I keep asking what I did. That seems to make it worse.
Why do I need constant reassurance in relationships?
If he does not say it, I do not believe it, even when he is kind.
Do I tell someone I am dating that I have kids?
I wait because I do not want to be filtered out. Then I feel like I hid something.
Why do I chase people who are emotionally unavailable?
If they are easy, I get bored. If they are half-in, I am obsessed.
How do I know if this is a situationship or a relationship?
We sleep together, talk daily, and have no name. I asked once and got 'why label it?'
How do I become more securely attached while dating?
I know my pattern. I still do it. I want a method, not a label.
Should I date someone who just got out of a long relationship?
She left a five-year thing two months ago. We have chemistry. I do not want to be the rebound and I do not want to be a coward.
How do we handle a desire mismatch?
I want sex twice a week. He wants it rarely. I feel rejected. He feels hunted.