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How do I become more securely attached while dating?
I know my pattern. I still do it. I want a method, not a label.
Should I date someone who just got out of a long relationship?
She left a five-year thing two months ago. We have chemistry. I do not want to be the rebound and I do not want to be a coward.
How do we handle a desire mismatch?
I want sex twice a week. He wants it rarely. I feel rejected. He feels hunted.
How long does it take to rebuild trust after lying?
I lied about money. She stayed. I want a date when this is over. She says she does not know.
What if I want affection and they only want sex?
Cuddling happens as a prelude. Afterward he rolls over. I feel used even when I said yes.
Can a relationship recover after emotional cheating?
It was not sex. It was a secret other intimacy. He says that means it 'does not count.'
How do I talk about a dry spell without making it worse?
It has been months. I am scared that naming it will make her feel broken.
What are signs someone is hiding something from you?
Phone face-down, new passwords, stories that do not match. I feel paranoid.
Is it normal that we never have sex anymore after kids?
I love my kids. I miss my wife. I feel like a monster for wanting something.
How do I stop checking my partner’s phone?
I find things, then I cannot stop. It is ruining us and I still do it.
How do I say I want to try something new in bed?
I am afraid she will think I am unsatisfied. I am not. I am curious.
How do I know if I am being gaslit?
After every argument I apologize, even when I started with a fact. I leave conversations more confused than I entered.