Asked by Man, 30
Phone face-down, new passwords, stories that do not match. I feel paranoid.
One locked phone is not a conviction. A new wall around ordinary life plus stories that slip is a pattern. Paranoia is what secrecy produces; that does not make you the villain. Ask a direct question once. Watch whether they get curious about your fear or angry that you noticed. Anger at being noticed is louder than the password.
Hiding has a texture: less sharing, more irritation when you ask simple things, a life that only adds up if you do not look closely. You are not owed their diary. You are owed a relationship that does not require you to become a detective. If you are already investigating, something is already wrong — either them, or the fit.
Ask one specific question. If you get contempt, believe the contempt and decide whether you can live with a locked door.
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