Asked by Woman, 38
I wait because I do not want to be filtered out. Then I feel like I hid something.
Tell them before anyone is attached to a fantasy of your weekends. Kids are not a shameful twist ending. A man who wants a life with you needs the real calendar. Filtering is the point of dating. Hiding just delays a no and makes the yes cheaper.
You do not owe your children's photos on date one. You do owe the fact that you are a parent before exclusivity. The right people will ask good questions. The wrong ones will punish you for having a life. That punishment is useful.
Mention it by date two or three, in a normal sentence, not an apology. Watch whether they get curious or cold.
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