Asked by Man, 29
I always either wait too long and look cold or text immediately and feel desperate.
Same night, short and specific beats a three-day strategy. 'I had a good time. Free Thursday?' is enough. Games are for people who enjoy losing good matches to pride. If she does not answer, you have data. If she answers without a day, offer one more time, then stop.
We can tell when a text is a performance of chill. A same-evening note that mentions something we actually said lands better than a delayed 'hey.' Desperation is volume and neediness, not speed. One clear text is adult. Five check-ins are not.
Text tonight with one concrete next step. Then put the phone in another room.
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