Asked by Woman, 36
I want sex twice a week. He wants it rarely. I feel rejected. He feels hunted.
Mismatch is common and not a verdict on love. Hunting makes the lower-desire partner freeze. Scorekeeping makes the higher-desire partner bitter. Talk about conditions, not morals: stress, touch without a destination, frequency you can both live with for a season. If 'never' is the real answer, that is a different relationship. Be honest about never.
Rejection can be real even when he is not cruel. You are allowed to need sexual connection. He is allowed to have a body that does not. The work is a plan that is not you initiating until you feel small. If every conversation becomes your need versus his comfort, get a couples therapist who will not shame either of you.
Agree a 30-day experiment: non-sexual touch most days, sex without a quota, and one honest check-in. Then decide, not hope.
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