Asked by Woman, 27
Cuddling happens as a prelude. Afterward he rolls over. I feel used even when I said yes.
If the only affection is a runway to sex, she will start hearing every hug as a request. That dries everything up, including the sex you want. Affection that cannot end without intercourse is not affection. It is a transaction. You can want sex and still offer touch that is allowed to go nowhere.
Yes can still leave you lonely. You are allowed to want the unsexy hour. Say it without a trial: 'I need time that is not going somewhere.' If that request is mocked, you have a values problem, not a technique problem.
Ask for one no-sex night of contact this week. If it cannot happen without a sulk, believe the sulk.
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